As a 13900K user the APO situation feels like a betrayal.

AM5 should have platform support for 2-3 more CPU generations if that would be helpful to you. There is also no need for a contact frame to maximise cooling efficiency.

Here’s me with a day 1 4090 waiting for the day that my card will be like these ones. /s

I don’t think it’s an issue for any owner who knows how to seat the connector. It could be better designed to be more idiot-proof though.

If you want to upgrade I would suggest the i7-11700K as opposed to the i9-11900K. They are virtually the same chip but the i7 should be significantly cheaper.